Thursday, February 10, 2011

Proceed with caution...

Marriage is such a complicated thing. You talk to one couple about marriage and they say it's the best thing that ever happened to them. You interview another and they say it's the hardest thing they've ever done...yet another it's the biggest mistake they ever made.

How is it that over 50% of marriages fail? Certainly an argument for having God involved in your relationship can be presented. But what about other factors?

I really think it boils down to one thing. Selfishness. Are you willing to see beyond your own nose? If you get in a fight...are you first to apologize and make things right? How long do you wait for the other person to come crawling back? What are you willing to do to make things right?

Ok - so since I am on a rant...what about the men in this world who don't hold up to what they say they're going to do? Stand up for what's right, get a new job, take out the trash, quit a bad habit - pick one - get help DO IT! Ladies don't get off that easily either...when we are mad, emotional, hormonal, or just plain stubborn - we need to stop holding out on our husbands and expecting him to either read our minds or burst through the door with a big apology and red roses. We need to be careful about complaining and moaning to our girlfriends. We need to communicate our needs to our husbands and stop denying his needs.

Selfishness is rampant in this world, and unfortunately the church isn't immune to this rampant disease. We need to stop schlepping and side-stepping the blame, stop passing the buck and start standing up for what is true and right. If we can't treat our spouse or even spouse-to-be with kindness and love...that's a sad sad thing. Our spouse is supposed to be safe with us.

How safe is your home?


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